So since my last blog post topic, I have been engaged in some very interesting conversations from some of my readers.
Now, even though the men were starring, it was not about them, it was about us. Because I am wondering, why in 2023 cheating is still so socially acceptable….to women?? I’ve been a part of conversations that further concrete my last blog, men would not, will NEVER, like EVER accept cheating from a woman, no matter what, so why is it an accepted, and excusable behavior by them to women?
Oh, in 2023, there are women who are educated, employed, self-employed, running an office, running a country, I mean come on, yet they are sticking besides a man who is laying with many others, why?
I remember years ago, I used to correspond with a lady who used to complain to me about her cheating boyfriend/baby daddy. Even though I was young and younger than her, I gave her this to think about. Your daughter us watching you, she’s also listening to you. What you accept, you’re teaching her to accept, is this what you want for her? Because she’s not going to do the what you say, she’s gonna do what you did, and probably still do.
At that time her daughter was I think 7 years old, you see, even though her daughter was young, that little girl mind was at work, she’s seeing, hearing and feeling, even though she doesn’t understand what’s going on, she’s thinking and those thoughts will end up in her subconscious mind and when she grows to , she’s gonna do things she don’t know why she’s doing it. I believe that if some of us go back to our childhoods, we will find the answers to the questions asked today.
So, she took what I told her and she decided to leave, she took her daughter and she left, the last time I saw her, the last image I can remember, was of her smiling, her face well lit up, she got a lil thick and she was happy. We lost contact over the years, and that’s ok, but if the good Lord was to ever bring us together again, I’m sure I’ll l see that she’s still doing good.
I believe women accepting cheating is a learned behavior that needs to be unlearned. Many believe that “all men cheat” uh, no they don’t, most men cheat, but not all, and the quantity of men that cheat is because #1. Women are availing themselves to for them to cheat with and #2. The woman at home accepts it. I mean, what encouragement do you see there for them to stop?
Then there are those that living the saying that says, “if you can’t beat em, join em”, right? Wrong! You could have beaten them, by doing what they would do if you did it, leave. Stop forgiving and staying, forgive and leave. Hello, when they out there doing whatever with whomever, you don’t know for certain if they using protection, and what they bringing home to you.
For some, they done reach too far to turn back and start over, so they just accept it, they don’t make a fuss about it anymore. They can’t be bothered they just accepted it as their lot in life I guess.
But let’s be completely honest here, the common denominator, no matter how it may present itself, is low self-esteem. And it is not okay to love someone who keeps hurting you, it’s not okay to open yourself up to someone who puts your health and life at risk because they lack self-control and discipline. A faithful man is not impossible, I can give a little and say it’s a challenge for them, but if more women stop accepting it, they’ll take on the challenge that is called being faithful. More and more women need to raise the standard and stop accepting the same crap that was accepted over 50 years ago, back then they didn’t have a choice, things have changed now, women have options now.
Even if that option is to be alone, if you don’t appreciate your own company, how will anyone else? What’s the point of staying with someone because you don’t want to be alone but you with them and you still alone? They treat you like a part-time job, cheating is their full-time job. Being alone clearly has better benefits and it’s so peace ful and beautiful over there.